The X-factor

Tonight I'm going out for a drink with my ex-boyfriend W. W. , as you may recall, was my significant other for only three weeks, but still we had a great time, so it's nice to see we can still go out for drinks together. Usually when relationships end (at least in my case), we basically never see each other again, or even hate each other. Of course, that's not the nicest way of breaking up, so it's a good thing there are some exceptions to the rule, with W. being one of them.

In fact, our 'date' together tonight got me thinking: why is it so hard to stay friends with someone you've been in a relationship with? Maybe W. isn't such a good example, since we only date briefly, but let's have a look at one of my three significant relationships: R.

When R. and I broke up, we didn't get along too well for a while. It's a phase I actually understand quite well, you know, it can be difficult to deal with stuff, so sometimes it's just better to fight over it. Then, after a couple of months, especially when you see each other like every day, as R. and I did around that time, there should be some kind of normality, right?

Wrong! If it weren't for a couple of weeks ago at a party, we still wouldn't have said a word to each other, and the sad thing is: there really is no-one to blame, it just happened. Isn't it weird? Someone who has played such a big role in your life, can just dissapear or even become an enemy. The same thing threatened to hapen with E. but fortunately enough we were, somehow, able to avoid it, so now we communicate quite often. Why is it then, that R. and I can't seem to manage the same thing?

I don't know. Basically, I shouldn't even care, I mean, we are ex-boyfriends and it's been a long time. Still, I'd like to believe I could get along with anyone, so I would really like to get along with him as well.